The Smallest Step Counts
On experience as teacher, action as faith, and presence as the path
Hi Friend,
There are so many things I still want to experience…just as many that I already have.
I’ve come to believe we’re here to experience everything our hearts call us toward and everything our minds can imagine. The universe, God, Source (whatever name you choose) doesn’t speak in words. God speaks in energy, emotion, feeling. And the way we show we’ve heard is through action. The smallest step counts. Writing the idea down. Calling the person who came to mind. Moving your body. Taking one literal step forward.
I am grateful to have experienced:
• Traveling to more than twenty countries and connecting with cultures across continents
• Performing as a dancer on the Apollo stage and at Essence Festival
• DJing at a few festivals, moving a crowd with sound and rhythm
• Witnessing the northern lights from the cockpit of a 787 more than a handful of times
• Supporting vaginal/unmedicated births—more than some seasoned doctors that I’ve come across
• Holding space for myself and others in their awakenings, transitions, and rebirths
And then there are the experiences that didn’t look like blessings at first:
• Healing from multiple ovarian cyst surgeries
• Forgiving my abusers
• Mourning a pregnancy loss
• Climbing out of debt
The beauty wasn’t visible in the moment. It revealed itself slowly (and continues to), through time, through reflection, through the quiet work of belief and perspective.
There’s still a lot more I want to experience.
Why?
Why not?
Who might I become if I allowed myself to experience it all?
Many people never realize their dreams because they stop believing they can. Because they think it’s impossible. Because they listen to fear disguised as practicality. They shrink their vision to fit someone else’s idea of “enough.” They lack structure, support, and the discipline to bring their energy into form.
But the truth is simple. The gap between the life you imagine and the one you live begins to close the moment you believe it’s possible and take action—one step, one call, one choice that says:
I heard you, God. I’m listening.
A friend once told me that my ability to feel an idea and just do it isn’t as common as I think. She joked that I should write a book about courage. I see it less as bravery and more as curiosity. Who might I become—or rather, who might I meet in the mirror—when I take the action aligned with a dream or intention?
It’s awakening to see how much society conditions us to forget that we are limitless. That everything imagined through the heart is already possible. Most of us simply spend more time feeding thoughts of fear, doubt, resistance, and comparison than thoughts of possibility. And those thoughts become the walls of our lives.
Meditation was one doorway out.
Years ago, when I made it a daily practice, I began to observe my thoughts and notice what station my mind was tuned to. And I didn’t like the soundtrack. It was like Spotify getting the song wrong again and again; or scrolling Instagram and seeing only decay and despair. I realized I could change the station. I could curate a different feed. One that reflected joy, truth, and alignment with what I actually wanted to experience.
That’s what this practice—this life—is.
A continual tuning.
A remembering.
A living meditation.
My practice can look like:
• Eating well
• Moving my body
• Prayer
• Drinking more water
• Dancing
• Meditation
• Writing
• Strength training
• Cooking
• Listening to music
• Reading scripture and nourishing words
• Time in nature and under the sun
• Stretching and cultivating flexibility
• Yoga (as preparation for stillness)
• Honest conversations with myself and others
• Rest, especially naps
• Reviewing my finances and minding my business
• Being of service through my work
• Doing absolutely nothing
It’s all meditation in motion…not separate from life, but lived through it.
The Season of Remembering
As we approach the end of this year, I’ve been sitting with what it really means to grow in being.
Over the last several months inside The Circle, my weekly gathering for leaders, practitioners, entrepreneurs, and creatives, we’ve met every Tuesday to breathe, reflect, and remember what’s true beneath the noise. Together we’ve built a quiet rhythm, one that’s less about doing more, and more about becoming and being who we already are.
We began this journey learning to release the habits, identities, and stories that no longer fit.
We practiced awareness as an antidote to autopilot.
We realized that slowing down doesn’t mean falling behind but catching up to yourself.
Then came the lessons in self-trust.
The kind that grows through repetition.
Showing up when it’s inconvenient.
Keeping one promise to yourself, then another.
Rebuilding faith in your. own. word.
We touched the tender edges of grief and letting go so we can move with it.
We learned that emotions are energy in motion.
And that allowing ourselves to feel doesn’t make us weak, it makes us whole.
Most recently, we explored the quiet shift from should to could.
We wrote the list of invisible expectations:
I should be further along.
I should be more disciplined.
I should have figured it out by now.
Then we asked the deeper questions:
Who told me that?
Do I actually want the experience that belief creates?
That moment changed everything.
Because should is pressure.
But could is power.
It opens space for choice, curiosity, and grace.
The Thread That Ties It All
Each week, The Circle has been less about fixing yourself, and more about returning to yourself.
We’ve remembered that discipline can be devotion.
That consistency can be love in practice.
That awareness is what transforms.
And from that remembering, small actions were born:
- One member called her immediate family for the first time in months.
- Another created a piece of art for no reason other than joy.
- Someone began checking in with their siblings every day.
- Another started going back to the gym.
- One completed another book, while another finally began writing their first.
- Another is back in school.
Tiny promises. Quiet revolutions.
Because real growth rarely looks loud.
It looks like choosing to stay present when it’s easier to run.
My intention isn’t to condemn if your lifestyle doesn’t reflect what I’m sharing. It’s to remind you that you’re not alone.
Each day is an opportunity.
A new day to choose an easier way of looking at life.
A new day to choose peace instead of being right.
A new day to walk instead of scroll.
A new day to read instead of gossip.
With everything going on in the world, may you be a little more gentle with yourself, find ways to shift your beliefs, and move closer to your dreams and what your heart desires.
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May your November be filled with love, joy, and abundance.
Peace,
O