To the one standing at the doorway of your own cluttered room—
To the one with the vision and the list, the plan and the prayer,
To the one who knows what needs to change but keeps circling the same old blocks—
this is for you.
I’ve been sitting with something that keeps coming up in my client calls, conversations, and honestly, even in my own life: this idea that the thing we think is the problem—whether it’s clutter, conflict, procrastination, or some other stuck place—is rarely the actual issue. It’s deeper than that.
That clutter you’re staring at?
It’s not just stuff.
It’s identity.
It’s old stories.
It’s heartbreak, self-doubt, years of prioritizing everyone else, and deep grooves of habit that whisper: “I can show up for others, but when it comes to myself… I don't know if I’m worth it.”
It’s sneaky, how that pattern shows up.
And the mind? Whew.
It’s so good at making it all make sense.
You’re too busy.
You’re too tired.
Now’s not the right time.
You need more help, more clarity, more energy.
And listen: these reasons often feel true. But if they’re keeping you in the same loop—if months or even years are passing without the change you know is possible—then it’s time to look underneath.
Here’s what I’ve seen over and over again:
We get so used to being the one in the clutter, the one with the block, the one who’s “working on it”… that it becomes who we are.
It feels familiar.
It feels safe.
Even when it’s painful. Smh.
And it’s not just about physical clutter. It could be the person who says they want love but keeps entertaining “situationships” that don’t align. Or the one who dreams of a deep, reciprocal partnership but hesitates to open their heart—staying tucked inside stories like, “I’m too busy,” or “there’s no one good out there.” I’m sure you can replace these stories with your own reasons or excuses.
Different patterns, same root: circling the familiar, even while craving something new.
But the version of you who is longing for freedom—the one who can already feel how good it would be to breathe deep, to live lightly, to love and receive love fully, to create boldly—that version of you?
They’re real too.
And they’re waiting for you to stop circling and start stepping forward.
And this part is important:
The version of you who achieves your goal is not the same version of you who sets it.
The moment you declare your intention to change, you’re inviting the death of the old self. And that can be scary as hell.
“What do you meaaannn? I gotta die?!!” Yes — the old you has to go!
Your ego—your survival mind—loves who you’ve been. Even if it’s holding you back, it knows how to be that version of you.
I see it all the time, and I’ve lived it myself:
We think, “Once I feel ready, I’ll move.”
But really, it works the other way around:
We move, and then we realize we were always ready.
One thing I love to share is a simple cycle that’s shaped my own journey:
Your attitude shapes your sense of potential.
Your potential influences your action.
Your action creates results.
And your results loop back to reinforce your attitude.
Most people wait for the motivation to strike, but the key is your attitude. The way you choose to look at the thing—whether it’s a room you need to clear, a dream you’re chasing, a creative project you’ve been sitting on, or a relationship you’re calling in—that’s the lever. That’s where the shift begins.
And if you’re anything like me (and so many of the people I work with), you’ve probably found it way easier to show up for others than you do for yourself. You can move mountains for your people. But when it comes to your own peace, your own growth, your own joy?
Suddenly it feels…optional.
So let me ask you:
What would it look like to treat yourself like your own best friend?
To show up for you with the same commitment, urgency, and care you offer to everyone else?
To break the habit of being your old self and start becoming the version of you who’s been waiting to emerge?
Here’s what I want you to know:
The clutter isn’t just clutter.
The fear isn’t just fear.
The block isn’t just a block.
—It’s all a mirror.
An invitation to meet yourself on a deeper level, to heal and grow and reclaim your power.
And the beautiful thing?
You don’t have to wait for the perfect moment. You don’t have to do it perfectly. You don’t have to have it all figured out. You just have to start—one corner of the room, one honest conversation, one courageous thought at a time.
Do it scared.
Do it awkward.
Do it messy.
But do it for you.
The future you’re dreaming of? It’s already real.
It’s just waiting for you to catch up.
On a personal note, I’m moving toward sharing one of my own loves—music—through DJing, a creative outlet that brings me so much joy. I shared my first official YouTube mix on Easter, less than two weeks ago. I’ve said this before and I’ll say it again: your expression is for you; the art is for others.
And here’s the wild part: as I’m writing this post, that mix has 950 views.
950 people have been able to enjoy something I created— curated songs and intentional tunes to move to and feel.
Of course, the ego loves to pop up with its usual chatter, but I’m staying focused on what matters: taking steps forward in expression, through all the mediums that light me up, as I continue to rediscover and reclaim all parts of myself.
If you want to check out the mix, you can listen here or here.
And remember: we’re all making this up as we go anyway.
Why not write a beautiful story?
A reminder I tell myself as often as I can.
If any of this resonates, let me know in the comments or share with a friend.
With love and so much belief in your being,
Oge