What Do You Believe About You?
(Reclaiming the quiet stories that shape our lives)
Lately I’ve been reflecting deeply on beliefs.
Not the ones you inherited and never questioned.
Not the “just have faith” kind that bypass your trauma and lived experience.
I’m talking about the quiet ones.
The ones that hum underneath your everyday.
The ones that run like background code, shaping what you say yes to, what you tolerate, what you secretly think you deserve.
The ones you don’t even know are there — until you feel stuck, frustrated, or exhausted… and don’t know why.
Most of us think we know what we believe.
But beliefs aren’t always loud.
They’re subtle.
They live in your body before your mouth ever speaks.
They live in the pause after you receive a compliment.
In the instinct to explain or over-deliver.
In the part of you that waits — until it’s perfect, until it’s safe, until you’ve earned it.
Beliefs aren’t just thoughts. They’re survival strategies.
Shaped in childhood, heartbreak, culture, or chaos.
They helped us make sense of the world. They kept us safe.
And yet — what once protected us can now keep us small.
Because here’s the truth:
You can say “I know I’m worthy.”
But if the deeper belief running the show is “I have to earn love” — your life will reflect that. Your life reflects all of your deeply rooted beliefs.
So how do we start to hear the hidden beliefs?
We slow down. We pay attention. We get honest — with gentleness and grace.
Your Language
The words you speak — especially casually — are clues.
Pay attention to the phrases you repeat, even in jest:
“I’m not good with money.”
“There’s never enough time.”
“I always mess things up.”
“I can’t slow down.”
“If I rest, I’ll fall behind.”
“I need to be doing more.”
“Love is hard.”
These may sound like facts, but they’re often inherited beliefs dressed as common sense.
They’re stories — not truths.
Notice them. Pause. And gently ask:
Is this belief serving who I’m becoming?
Even if it feels like a lot, try rewriting the sentence (either on paper, in your head or better yet — out loud).
Not to fake it — but to practice a new way of seeing.
Your Patterns
What loops do you keep reliving?
The relationships, roles, or routines that leave you feeling empty, overextended, or unseen?
Do you constantly give more than you receive?
Procrastinate just before a big breakthrough?
Sabotage the good things because they feel unfamiliar?
Get praised and immediately downplay it?
These aren’t random.
They’re patterns — often built around core beliefs like:
“I’m only lovable when I’m useful.”
“Success isn’t safe.”
“Ease means I’m being lazy.”
“If I shine, I’ll be punished.”
Look at your loops with compassion. Not to blame yourself — but to understand yourself. That’s where change begins.
Your Reactions
Every trigger is a teacher.
When something gets to you — pause and ask:
What belief is this touching?
What deeper story is this moment activating?
Someone says “no” and it stings — is it rejection… or a resurfacing belief of “I’m not enough”?
You see someone thriving and feel small — does it bump into “There’s no room for me”?
The stronger the reaction, the deeper the root.
Instead of numbing or avoiding, just ask:
“What is this trying to show me about what I believe?”
Your Resistance
This one’s harder to catch.
It shows up exactly where we say we want something… but keep avoiding it.
You want visibility — but don’t speak up.
You want love — but push people away.
You want freedom — but overcommit or try to control everything.
You want to write the book — but keep editing the first paragraph.
Resistance isn’t laziness. It’s often a protective mechanism — your body’s way of saying,
“If I actually go for this… and fail… what will that mean about me?”
But instead of shaming the resistance — listen to it.
It’s a flashlight pointing to the beliefs that are quietly fighting your growth.
Letting go of old beliefs isn’t a one-time thing.
It’s an unfolding. A softening. A series of small choices.
It’s catching yourself in the middle of a thought loop and choosing not to follow it.
It’s breathing through the discomfort of a new narrative.
It’s being kind to the version of you that believed something different — and gently, lovingly releasing it.
Here are a few journal prompts to explore:
What do I believe about myself right now?
Are those beliefs mine — or have I inherited them or absorbed them from others?
What would I need to embrace to move forward with courage?
If I completely believed I was already enough, how would I show up today?
Could I be seeing this situation through the lens of an outdated or limiting belief?
I believe you’re reading this for a reason.
I believe in infinite possibilities.
And I believe it’s time — time to let go of what no longer fits or serves you and remember who you really are.
We’re not here to live small.
We’re here to live true.
Let’s keep walking each other home.
Peace,
Oge
If this landed in your spirit, hit reply and tell me:
What’s one belief you’re ready to release?
And what’s one you’re reclaiming?
Or forward this to someone in the middle of their own becoming.
