Who Are You Trying to Fool?
A letter for the one who looks brave but knows they’re still holding back...
Dear Friend,
There’s a quiet whisper that keeps returning: follow your joy.
Not just the safe joy.
Not the logical joy.
Not the kind that earns nods of approval or likes on the internet.
I mean the joy that terrifies you.
The one that feels so close to your essence that you almost avoid it.
The one that, if you really said yes to it, would change everything.
Lately, I’ve been asking myself:
Am I really doing what lights me up? Or just circling it politely?
Sometimes people look at my life and say I’m brave.
—“You just go for it,” they say.
And yes — I’ve taken leaps. Changed careers. Moved across countries. Explored creative endeavors. Let go of identities and roles that didn’t fit.
I’ve said yes to the unknown.
But if I’m being honest, I’m realizing there are still parts of me I’ve been pushing to the side.
Not because I can’t hear them —but because they’re whispering things that stir resistance within me.
As someone with many talents and passions, it can look like I’m following my joy (and I am — to an extent).
But there’s a difference between choosing what’s comfortable and creative…
and choosing what’s sacred and soul-stirring.
Lately I’ve been asking myself:
Am I choosing the passions that feel safe-adjacent?
The ones that let me stay in motion without fully committing to the thing I feel I’m meant to be doing?
Why should I follow my passion(s)?
Because the cost of not doing so is too high.
When I talk to elders — people closer to the end than the beginning —
there’s one word that haunts the conversation: regret.
Not for what they did, but for what they didn’t do.
For the whisper they ignored.
For the calling they postponed.
For the part of themselves they never gave permission to come alive.
Joy is not frivolous.
It’s not an escape or a luxury.
It’s a compass.
Following your joy doesn’t mean abandoning responsibility —
it means taking responsibility for what keeps your soul alive.
It means honoring the part of you that remembers why you’re truly here.
How do I even know what my passion is — or which one to follow?
Start by telling yourself the truth.
What do you love but keep sidelining?
What are you good at that you’ve convinced yourself is “not enough”?
What’s one thing that brings you joy — but you’ve been avoiding?
What’s something you do (or used to do) that makes time disappear?
Be honest about what energizes you.
What opens your chest.
What makes you feel like yourself again.
You don’t have to choose forever — just choose now.
Give it space.
Ten minutes.
One afternoon.
A full moon cycle.
Turn toward it, even if your voice shakes.
Even if you don’t know where it will lead.
Even if it’s messy, quiet, or unconventional.
And here’s the real deal —
The answer you give to these questions might not be the thing, but it will bring you closer.
Closer to your highest joy.
Closer to your deepest truth.
I’ve noticed the ego wants to leap to the end…
as if the pull in the moment is something you’re committing to forever.
But sometimes the desire is just here to get you unstuck.
To remind you how it feels to move again.
To wake up the part of you that’s ready to live.
To start you on the path toward joy, love, and creative freedom.
You don’t need a five-year plan. You need a yes.
One yes at a time.
Each yes is an investment in your own appreciation.
A moment of self-recognition.
Follow what lights you up — because it’s a foolproof way to get where you truly desire to be.
Even if you’ve lied to yourself time and time again.
You can always get back on the path.
You can always say yes — to your past, present, and future self.
Here a few prompts to reflect on:
Where am I performing courage but avoiding truth?
What would I do if I let my joy lead — not my fear, not my resume, not my conditioning?
What’s a small experiment I can try this week that brings me closer to what I love?
You don’t have to burn your life down.
But you can build one that feels like home.
That begins with choosing joy — and trusting it knows the way.
I’d love to hear:
What’s one thing calling to you right now — even if it’s quiet?
Feel free to reply in the comments, or just whisper it to yourself.
That’s enough to begin.
If this letter stirred something in you, and you’re seeking support in staying close to that whisper — a few updates + invitations are below.
—The Circle is open. And you’re invited.—
There are few spaces where you can bring the whole of you.
Where you don’t have to impress, perform, or explain.
Where you’re witnessed in your process — not just your results.
The Circle is that space.
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Part group coaching, part spiritual anchor.
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• Move through resistance with gentleness and momentum
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— Dee, Circle participant and Beings Founding Member
I’ll be there — every Tuesday. And you’re invited.
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I work with visionaries, change-makers, and creatives who are navigating transition, deepening their leadership, or returning to what feels most true.
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Feel free to pass this along to anyone it might resonate with — and if you’re feeling a pull yourself, I’d love to connect.
With gratitude,
Oge